>>64095
im not saying all men are bad but i cant trust all men because of the majorly insensitive and unempathetic popularity, and in that popularity there remains those who can be outright dangerous so it is both expected of me to act kind and oblige but to protect myself
i have to not wear revealing clothing, even though they still rape kids in their school uniform, their joggers, babies that were never clothed for the first time in their life even.
i shouldnt be out late at night, because if i do, i am asking for it. i can not be simply going on a night walk or a run to the shop or return from work while feeling safe

dont think i feel safe at other times...

i am scared in a class, if a male looks at me the wrong way, maybe they think because i dont speak much and am shy, they think i wont tell anyone if he touches me, gropes me, forces himself on me,
kills me...

and whos to say a man that acts kind the first time you meet isn't going to betray you, take advantage of you?

i personally know people who have married "wonderful" guys (shoutout tex beneke) and got assaulted later in their marriage.
my mother even got cheated on by the guy he first got engaged to, when she was young.
by the way, if you do engage with a person that reveals they are bad after, you will get shunned for it. like i said, the situation with my mother. this does not get speaken of ever. i just know it because i read the letters my mom and dad exchanged because he was working out of the country after they met, which was technically arranged! both my grandmas met at a "party" of sorts, its more casual like just a planned visit with many people. and they became friends, talked about how they had single children, they were close in age; they should meet!
well, i am very lucky because they are completely in love with each other. of course my father has his quirks like getting angry more easily and he has a hard time saying sorry but they got over it, together.
together as in they allowed each other to be vulnerable with one another, they did chores together so it would be easier on both of them, when they were both working.