>>63866
well idk what is the appropriate culture on raising a boy is like in america or "the west" but here and i think turkey or middle east in general girls are getting told to do stuff and be responsible since like 10-14, my mom says its like "when u have your first period is when you become a woman" but i had my first at 16 or something (because i was so thin and malnourished) so she made me do chores at like 11-12 LOL
more than chores, you have to sit in a certain way, smile, look pretty, makeup is unnecessary but if you have an imperfection you should cover it after 14 at least for me, be home from sun sets, and always, ALWAYS provide and abide by the males in your life.
im not saying males want women to act like this inherently, they just may not know because they didnt grow up with a sister or just had different parents or a family (my grandma is mooore strict on these desu)
like im putting the blame on men way before that decided that if a woman does not do all this AND do everything that the male should do, god forbid it's 50:50 or 60:40. its literally 100:1. with a kid its 200:1. im putting 1 because 0 cant be a denominator. well. at least the 1 could be the paycheck, but we do not see that in all couples now.
imagine a redditor laying on the couch scratching and sniffing his crotch and the mom is trying to get sleep after staying up for insane amounts after a newborn, and he doesnt help, because he doesnt THINK to help, because he never considered it. and a woman wakes up, again, not falling asleep for even a minute, and takes care of both their child.
and gets mad at his wife because the baby crying is interrupting his skyrim (the infinityth release edition with no mods and 30 fps)on switch gameplay (his steam deck is charging and he brought it to the hospital while shr was delivering) >(INB4 THERE IS NO CUCKOLDERY IN THIS SITUATION)
like do u see it. even if you spend time with a man for years and he loves you oh so much but you just cant know how they will act once you are settled, after a honeymoon, after years of doubleincome, having a child of your own.
sure he might be nice to kids, hell even love the child. but his instinct is not to go help his baby when it cries. his instinct is not to clean but to complain about something dirty he sees. and this is not just his fault, but the ones in times think that they should have all the authority with no power.
a woman makes or breaks a family. a home. carries it all on her.
yeah it is common for a man to work, maybe 40 hours a week!
a woman works for 24 7 for no pay at all.
and i am not getting even started on how much % men indulge in crimes compared to all people. you are prey every second. you could fall prey to your husband whom supposedly protects you, and people might call you a liar, a whore, and if they believe you, you should just shut your mouth so noone thinks hes a bad guy, it's for the whole familys reputation, right?

i dont know. i am very speculative of the contrary point but i do believe a man can help with a womans both physical and mental load.
sorry for yapping