What I mean is:
Suppose you are a poor child and wander around outside. all your poor friends are at the poor children's playground, but not too far away, there is a gated and beautiful playground with a fence around it. the gate can be opened, but there is no one at that playground. it has lots of space and beauty to it, but the other children won't go with you, as they feel like they don't belong there or they think that they're not allowed to be in there. you can go there, and play, and as you play you notice a peace and quiet away from the noise of the poor children's playground. no one comes and tells you to leave. but you are playing alone and it might feel as if you don't belong here or are not allowed to be in there